I interviewed one of my dearest friends from grade school who made the choice years ago not to have children. Amy and I met in six grade, me with big glasses and she was born with her left arm developed only to the elbow. We were so good togetherbecause of the teasing we had gone through during gradeschool.
Amy's disability never stopped her. We were cheerleaders on sixth grade and there was nothing we would not do. The years past and we all get to high school and then off to college. Amy and Jeff have been married now almost 15 years. Children is something neither of them every wanted. Amy says, "we enjoy traveling and living life to the fullest". I have had many talks with Amy about children. She is wonderful with other friends children. Her big sister has never had children either. As we talked, our childhoods were filled with many joys and sorrows. I asked, did anything happen as a child to make you not want children? She simply stated to me, "I never had the longing to be a mother and have never regretted my choice."
Amy knows my son, Bryant, who is the light of my life. Amy and her husband love him a lot. They have taken on the roll of aunt and uncle to us and all of our friends kids. This is their calling in life. I am a woman that always wanted to be a mom. Now I have never wanted three of four children that many people want. All I wanted was a boy and I got that bundle of joy eighteen years ago. I just cannot imagine my life without my child.
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Thank you for your blog! I enjoyed reading about Amy and her decision. I would guess that she is probably in the minority, but maybe we just don't hear about women like her very often. I have a dear friend who is like an aunt to my kids, but never desires children of her own. She is still young (32) but does not think she will change her mind. Anyway, thanks for sharing.
It is strange how some women know they do want children and how others just know that they don't. Me...I was never sure growing up. I never planned my wedding when I was a little girl or saw myself with children. Now I can't see myself without my husband or our two kids. I think that some people just do not want the responsibility of raising chidren, but they love to be around them and to play with them. I can respect that.
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